1:09 P.M.

October 25th.

It is my birthday.

It was a day that my mom went way out of her way, to make it special for me.

But it was a phone call she always made, at the exact time, every year, that made it perfect.

She would always call me at 1:09 p.m.

Why?

That was the time I was born.

It started in high school when she would call our answering machine and leave a message for me that I would hear when I got home.

In college, same thing.

Cell phones roll around but this time, no message.

“Hi Mom.”

“Hi honey. Happy Birthday. I love you!”

“Thank you mom. I love you too.”

In 2007, we noticed our mom starting to get sick. Forgetting things here and there, not bad at first, but still a concern.

2009, she had gotten worse but like clockwork on my birthday at 1:09, my phone rang.

“Hi Mom.”

“Hi Honey. Happy Birthday. I love you!”

“I love you too.’

I knew in my heart, that would be the last time she would call on my birthday.

Her mind was going and as much as it bothered me, I accepted it.

I was with her the day before and she barely remembered me.

1:09 p.m.

Phone rings.

“Hi Mom.”

“Hi Honey. It is 1:09. 42 years ago right now, I saw you for the very first time.”

“Thank you Mom. I love you.”

She would pass away 8 months later.

On my birthday the following year, as much as I wanted that damn phone ring, I thanked God profusely that it didn’t.

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it did, I would know that my mom was still battling that hell we call alzheimers.

So now at 1:09 p.m. rain or shine, on my birthday, I will grab lunch and head over to her grave.

I have been doing it now for 3 years.

Will do it the rest of my life.

And I will turn my phone off.

10 Comments

  1. Zach Clayton October 25, 2013 7:38 pm  Reply

    Great post. Nuff said.

  2. Ron October 26, 2013 11:12 am  Reply

    Thanks for that sharing Joe

  3. Stacey October 30, 2013 2:54 am  Reply

    You post so many zany things and then to read something this poignant….my heart breaks for your loss. What a wonderful memory to treasure.

    • Joe Dubin November 7, 2013 3:54 pm  Reply

      Thank you!! Those are very easy to write….just difficult to post…if that makes sense….

  4. Jane November 1, 2013 7:11 pm  Reply

    LOVE your Mom stories! Thanks for sharing!

  5. Tommy Allen November 2, 2013 4:08 am  Reply

    Joe,

    I am not even sure how I found this site but I am glad I did! I don’t have a Facebook site and spend very little time on the internet.With this said, your page has become a favorite place to go for an escape and a good laugh. Your success in the media world has never surprised me and this site further provides proof of your multiple talents. Having known you for many years but rarely seeing you over the last several, following this gives me a good dose of what I have always loved about Joe Dubin! Tonight as i catch up, I see the post regarding your birthday and the yearly calls from your mother. Of course I was never aware of her illness until I began following you here. Although I never knew your Mom well, I was privileged to have been able to see her fairly often in our fitness center back in the early and mid 90’s. There were many nights that i looked forward to seeing and talking with her while she walked on the treadmill. She was one of my favorite members of all time and one incredible lady. Anyone that ever spent a few minutes with her would instantly know 2 things. First Joe was definitely her son ((they shared their sense of people- strong opinion, humor- ability to not take themselves or life in general to seriously-yet obvious ability to handle most anything they are faced with- along with an almost unconscious ability to make you feel comfortable even if they are giving you a hard time the first time you meet them) Secondly, she loved Big Joe and adored everything about him. (I’m not sure she would have ever said it that way but it was very apparent to me, without those words ever being uttered) I hope this makes sense and I hope you had a great birthday. Im sure your Mom is looking down and is as proud today as I know she was then.

    Best to you my friend!
    Tommy Allen

    • Joe Dubin November 7, 2013 3:54 pm  Reply

      Tommy, you just made my year. Thank you my friend for the kind words.

  6. Joe Dubin November 5, 2013 1:53 pm  Reply

    Guys, I really appreciate the kind words. The good memories are slowly pushing out the bad ones.

  7. Sarah Wilkinson October 25, 2016 11:37 pm  Reply

    God bless, Joe! Your Mama raised a good one.

  8. Rogina Baker October 26, 2016 3:15 pm  Reply

    Beautiful and special post. Jeanette made me a part of her family. I am most thankful for that. I loved her so much and I love you and your family. We had such wonderful times together. Thank you for sharing this beautiful message.
    God Bless.
    Love,
    Rogina

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